A 3 step process to becoming was a thought I stumbled upon last week when I was battling myself with my thoughts. I am writing this with hopes I am not the only one who experiences this painful and exhausting process of reliving shameful situations. When we make mistakes and relive them over and over and over in our minds, shaming yourself and thinking of ways it could have gone differently. Why do we do this, we can not change what was done, we can not change the past. We do not realize how much energy we are expelling towards something that can not be changed. How can we stop this process? Great question, it is the one I asked myself for days, after reliving an embarrassing scenario. After several days of emotional exhaustion, my mind finally put the pieces together.
1. Acknowledge the thought: when a negative thought enters your mind before you get angry at yourself for thinking it. Acknowledge it, embrace it and face it DO NOT ignore it. This gives us the control of the thought. This is a very uncomfortable action, so do not be scared when you feel the discomfort. It is ok, stay focused on it.
2. Learn from it: After acknowledging the thought process it, break it down, chew on it, but do not go shaming yourself. This is the most powerful and difficult step! This is where life lessons come from, really take the time to digest this step. What did you learn from your actions, reaction, consequence, and/or actions/reactions consequences from others? Turn your shameful situation to something you can learn and share to become a better you. You may find yourself here for a while, that is perfectly ok, take your time and enjoy your lesson.
3. Be Aware: The average adult understands we do not change overnight, we may need to be reminded of this when our patience runs thin but it is a concept we understand. During your shaming phase, you will find yourself having that thought creep in your mind and mental space frequently. You may notice a slight or big change in your demeanor, such as feel hot, anxious, insecure and many other feelings. Ok, this is challenging! But it is completely normal, we are emotional beings. Embrace these feelings because they are YOUR emotions, but remind yourself you are not here forever. Go back to step 1, acknowledge it and then when ready go to step 2 what did you learn from it?
4. Replace thought with a positive life changing lesson learned: When you have reached this step you have mastered steps 1, 2, and 3 individually and collectively. You have accepted and embraced your once shameful situation with a lesson learned which in the long run makes you a better you! CONGRATS!!!!
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-If you do not like something in your life change it, because we have the power to change nothing inside us is bad- Damaris